Have you heard of them? If not yet now is the time. Knowing these languages can completely change your life. It doesn’t only help you with relationship with your partner but also with your family, friends or even colleagues.
So, which one are they exactly?
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Gifts
Physical Touch
Acts of Service
These five languages are a unique way how we perceive love but also the way how we often express love. It can happen in a relationship that we just don’t feel our partner truly loves us. Most of the time it is not actually true. Its just that our loved one perceives love in a different way than us. If you do this test and get to know your and your partner´s love language, relationship can become much smoother.
Someone appreciates the most when they receive gifts. Someone values the most when you spend a good quality time together. Other people love when you do things for them, or some people need to feel the physical touch to feel loved. Others need to hear your appreciation or admiration out loud by words.
Imagine you are in a relationship for years with your partner. You do things for them that you perceive as proofs of love. For instance, you keep doing groceries because you think that’s what the other person would appreciate. Or you keep planning romantic moments because that’s how you express feelings towards your partner. Or from time to time you come home with small gifts because you want your partner to know that you thought about them. But they may not always perceive this as proves of love. The reason is that whatever you may see as a genuine love gesture your partner may not. Everyone is speaking different love language. You just need to find out which one is it that is the most important to your loved one. Given by many years of research and hard work of Dr. Gary Chapman he discovered that even marriages that seemed to be one step from a divorce could find a way back to loving relationship. Yes, sometimes it can be hard to fulfill “love tank” of your partner, but if you truly love them then you just simply do it. But of course, keep the healthy balance, you don’t have to use love language of your loved one every day. And if it´s something you are not used to, you can use a little help of setting reminders. That is completely fine.
I advise to read book 5 Love Languages of Mr. Gary Chapman. He has published three editions in total - for singles and for parents, too. If you are not sure, which love language is yours there is a test available online that can reveal it for you.
Here is the link to it: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
In my opinion they are such an eye opener and will change the way you treat and talk to your loved ones. And trust me, adjusting your habits or opening your mind to see the love from other´s person perspective can truly change any of your relationships.
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